Sometimes the old tried and true activities aren’t enough to get us out of our shells and into the arms of who we want. We need to try something new, get out of our element and learn something about ourselves. Doing the same thing over and over – like heading to the club or bar in hopes of marriage material – and expecting a different result is Einstein’s definition of insanity. Try a new activity. Take a martial arts class or a fine arts class. Attend an author’s book reading or join a book club. Don’t just stop at going dancing and actually take some dance lessons. And these don’t have to be “find a man” activities. They can just be “have some fun” activities.