Let’s face it. You adore your bambinos but they sometimes get in the way of a steamy lovemaking session. Shanda has a tip for you: “It’s cool if you can make sex dates. It sounds crazy but its fun. Maybe your parents or a friend can watch your kids. Or, you can make it for a time after the kids are in bed and you know they’re asleep. It’s about taking and making opportunities for each other, going that extra mile. I say this to women all the time—you can be a great mother and you can be a great wife, but you still have to be a great lover to your man."