Communication is an important element of any successful relationship. “As you get to know a person and as you become more intimate, each [sexual] opportunity allows you to learn about your partner. The basis of it all is understanding your partner and knowing what they like and what they don’t like and being able to take that relationship to the next level. The key to that is asking questions. A lot of people keep the same intimacy in their relationships because they’re afraid to ask and they’re afraid to say what they want,” schools Shanda.