Make Your Move

I totatally agree with Pashon."If a man wants to talk to you, if he wants to date you, if he wants to marry you - it will be as easy as me writing these lines. Men are not that complicated." You are so right.

Posted at 1:34PM on July 3rd 2009 by Lee

I'm sorry, but these approaches - and I've tried them all - have never resulted in anything long lasting. Men see women who are too forward, as easy and controlling, and sometimes they view that forwardness as an unwillingness to let a man lead. I think we, women, complicate these matters. If a man wants to talk to you, if he wants to date you, if he wants to marry you - it will be as easy as me writing these lines. Men are not that complicated. Women, we are complicated. We want love now and right now, and we get conflicting messages when writers like this insist that we need to "take our love lives into our own hands". Really? We do? Ladies, let men be men. We need to stop trying to usher in romance that doesn't exist and let them do what they do.

Posted at 11:32AM on July 3rd 2009 by Pashon

I agree with Mattie. It nothing wrong with showing interest (being approachable), but let the guy do the approaching. Some guys may look at is as being desperate or easy.

Posted at 11:21AM on July 3rd 2009 by young black female

My oh my, don't women get mixed messages when it comes to finding love. No wonder some of us are confused. Yes, I do believe that we can send 'suttle' hints like smiling and saying 'hi'. But really leave the approaching to the man! We don't need to be so aggressive. Men may appreciate it at first, but not in the long run. Let him lead, the relationship will be better for it!

Posted at 10:42AM on July 3rd 2009 by Mattie