Make Your Move

I do believe in letting a man be a man..if a man wait for me to approach he will probably be waiting for along time..if a man want to step then he will be stepping not me

Posted at 1:05PM on July 6th 2009 by td

Ladies #3 might not work taking the girlfriend..thats how I met my hubby my g-friend wanted to meet him I didnt have a interest..so one day we was both together we final meet this guy and he told her that he wanted to give me his number and that he wanted to meet me long b4..went from there

Posted at 12:56PM on July 6th 2009 by td

So I saw this guy on the train and he looked delicious! I was about 7 stops away from home when he caught my eye. He was 6'7, chocolate, and dressed to the T but I was most attracted to how he wasn't starring me down or saying anything silly like, "Yo, gorgeous! How you doin'?" So I got real bold, real quick. I wrote on the back of my business car, "you're cute." I promised myself that when he got off the train I would give it to him, if he walked past me. Unfortunately, he never got off the train and we were almost at my stop. Moment of truth. I couldn't exit the train without knowing if he would have called. I gave it to him and rushed off the train. One block later... I got a text, "do you always prewrite your business cards?" YAY ME!

Posted at 11:50PM on July 4th 2009 by sunshinediva

So I saw this guy on the train and he looked delicious! I was about 7 stops away from home when he caught my eye. He was clean and dressed to the T but I was most attracted to how he was starring me down or saying anything silly like, "Yo, gorgeous! How you doin'?" So I got real bold real quick. I wrote on the back of my business car, "you're cute." I promised myself that when he got off the train I would give it to him if he walked past me. Unfortunately, he never got off the train and we were almost at my stop. Moment of truth. I couldn't exit the train without knowing if he would have called. I gave it to him and rushed off the train. One block later... I got a text, "do you always prewrite your business cards?" YAY ME!

Posted at 11:47PM on July 4th 2009 by sunshinediva

CORRECTION: I meant to say, 'the fact that she approaches a man,' not 'the face that.'

Posted at 6:35PM on July 3rd 2009 by Jeannette

I feel that a woman should do what she feels comfortable doing. If she is confident in herself and is comfortable approaching a man then so be it. She may be rejected and she may not. She will only know if she tries. Just because a relationship didn't work doesn't mean it has to do with that face that she approached a man, maybe it was bad timing for him or her. There is a man for every woman and every situation. I have approached guys and guys have approached me. I know people in healthy happy marriages where the woman approached the guy and where the man approached the woman. I don't believe like the author is telling people to be aggressive. I hear her saying to be assertive with your life. You only live life once. Therefore, live it and enjoy it.

Posted at 6:28PM on July 3rd 2009 by Jeannette

I error. I agree with Gloria not Toya.

Posted at 5:58PM on July 3rd 2009 by me2

I totally agree with Toya. I was raised to know that men are suppose to make the first move. Men know what they want and I was taught that a man chooses his wife, not a woman choosing her husband. That is if woman wants to accept that man as her mate. I'm 36 years and I never ever approached a man and I have had so many boyfriends throughout my life but I'm married now and not by making the first move and I'm happy my man chose me and I accepted.

Posted at 5:57PM on July 3rd 2009 by me2

I totally agree with Pashon. Some men are out there searching for that 'Special' someone, but I do believe that by approaching him first and being aggressive in your attempt to 'get him' will usually end in disappointment. Men love the chase. Now, I'm not opposed to anything that works- but, being aggressive in the dating game never proved impressive for 'most' men b/c they view you as an all-out 'desperate and easy' woman who's 'up for anything'. Now, ladies we all know that's NOT the image we're trying to project when we're out looking for stable and potentially commited companionship, but b/c men interpret things much more diferently than we- that's what they see when we don't let them make the first move. (This is sad b/c now most men are afraid of rejection therefore not making the first move either)

Posted at 5:29PM on July 3rd 2009 by Constance

I agree with all of you ladies. My whole mindset is about letting the man approach you and pursue me first. In the past I've tried being a little more forward by giving a guy my number. I even tried to approach guys that were of interest to me through online dating sites by sending messages and rarely does this gets a guys attention. It is so frustrating, I almost feel like I am doing something wrong. So my thing is if a guy is interested he should make the 1st move.

Posted at 4:17PM on July 3rd 2009 by Gloria