Domestic Violence Awareness: 10 Relationship Rules to Save Your Life

Thanks for this very good advice

Posted at 9:47AM on October 16th 2009 by Janzee

I am affiliated with a nonviolence, World Peace Movement (Foundation) called Peace and Love Foundation-The Art of Peace and Love School Tour is designed to promote Peace and Love to students, throughout the Philadelphia area and aboard. The Partners of the Art of Peace School Tour realize that delivering the message of Peace and non-violence to our youth must be delivered by messengers that our youth can identify with and respect in order for the message to be received. The primary objective of Peace and Love is to promote that violence is a CHOICE as Peace is a choice – the goal of the Art of Peace School Tour is to offer students an option to violence. By infusing the power of the words and spirit of living in Peace we believe that we can challenge our youth to make better choices. People have the power to save lives and the CHOICE is up to the individual – we want the students of Philadelphia to CHOOSE life not death. Thanks Essence for all that you do!!!

Posted at 4:04PM on October 15th 2009 by Felliecia Kameka

My oldest son, who witnessed the most abuse is now on the honor roll. It is hard work, but whatever the cost of freedom, I'd gladly pay it! Get you some counseling too. That's not a sign of weakness. It gives you strength.

Posted at 3:32PM on October 15th 2009 by CAM

Women believe we can fix a man. His problem is not a reflection of you. He was broken when you got him. And you are his crutch that prevents him from getting any help. Which he still may not get afterwards. He tried to use God to make me stay. I told him God gets no glory by us staying together in caious! He would rather us be separate and be at peace. And you will have more questions to answer to God about what you did to your children, then what you did to your spouse. I BELIEVE IN MY HEART IF I HAD STAYED, I WOULD BE DEAD TODAY. AND...four years later, he still has not changed! My boys went to counseling, I could see the change for the better. We became closer (No matter how good of a mother you are, you cannot parent your best when you are "raising somebody else's child").

Posted at 3:32PM on October 15th 2009 by CAM

I used to stay for my children. Eventually I left for the same reason. I decided my children were not going to tell me at the family picnic how stupid I was for putting up with their dad, after I so called did it for them. Or blame me for their troubles because I was weak. I have three boys and was married for 10 years. We had money. Not your kind, but more than I was used to. It will be hard but nothing is like PEACE and God will always bring you to a point of provision. I felt sorry for him. He had good traits. (Even rapist and murderers have good traits). But you are trying to help him and are destroying yourself.

Posted at 3:31PM on October 15th 2009 by CAM

Ladies, remember this....A Man getting up in your face and yelling at you..is ABUSE, If you feel scared during an argument and it seems like he is going to lose control, but never does...it's still ABUSE....Get out of the relationship ASAP. You dont have to tell the guy at that time that you are getting out of it...wait unitil you are safely away from him and then think about how you will inform him and others that you will no longer be a part of the relationship. Grabbing, yelling, pushing, threatening are all forms of ABUSE. Dont wait unitl you get slapped, or worse.

Posted at 1:03PM on October 15th 2009 by tellit

I know getting a gun sounds idea when someone is beating you, but DON'T do it. You will lose in court, it's not self defense if he's hitting you with his hands and you shoot him and nothing is documented. You should go NOW, leave, go to a shelter. He's an athlete so I'm sure he's not home at times, during those times, get all of your important paper work i.e. birth certificates, marriage certificate, deeds, social security cards etc and go. Be sure to go somewhere that's safe and that he won't be able to have access to you or the kids. I understand his children love him, but they also love you and if you stay they will see you in a coffin and you don't know if he'll start to take his anger and frustration out on them. He needs help and you can't be his punching bag until he gets it, nothing good comes from this type of situation. Don't let this man kill you in front of your children, please leave now.

Posted at 11:16AM on October 15th 2009 by Shanta

Scared, get rid of yor contract phone and get a prepaid one! Get a court order to keep him away from your kids before you do this get a private investigator. Don't be afraid your giving him POWER. GOD will take care of him but you have to have faith and get some courage too, you can't just run away either you have to stick your heels in the ground and fight it....You "may" need to relocate too for a while. If he wants to go to jail and rot over you he's a fool already knowing this you shouldn't have any worries.

Posted at 10:35AM on October 15th 2009 by ...

@ Scared Think about it if you stay your kids could end up without a Mother because their Father has murdered you. If he really loved his kids he would not put his hands on their Mother.

Posted at 10:35AM on October 15th 2009 by Shaz

Also..Watch who follows you when you're leave work or a freinds house always walk to your car with somebody else get a surveillance camra for your house or apartment, If he calls your job tell people never to give out infomation about you or your whereabouts. If you can afford to get a new CAR ASAP!

Posted at 10:20AM on October 15th 2009 by Nail him