How to Date In Your 20s, 30s, 40s...

a continuation from my last post...And guys can since desperate women and "know" where to pick them up because they are certain popular places that singles tend to gravitate. Men will use it to their advantage. During my the time I was single, majority of the ladies go to "popular" single social networking events. Like I said be open-minded in your activiites and date out your race, you never know!

Posted at 7:18AM on October 24th 2009 by CPinNYC

I refuse to talk to men in the club unless its a casual conversation. Otherwise, I don't pay attention to them because once you are under the influence of alcohol, you just have a different mind set. I didn't think the dating scene was hard; I realized I was looking in the "wrong places". Now there is nothing wrong with meeting a guy at a club or the internet. But I feel if a guy is really interested in you, he will want to take the time out to get to know you in quiet setting, not in a damn club. Just keep your options open. I do believe it does get harder to date as you get older at times but just be strong ladies. Several ladies said many good suggestions; joining a school association (or maybe go back to school!), take up a hobby and just be cautious in setting like internet dating, club settings, etc.

Posted at 7:16AM on October 24th 2009 by CPinNYC

Ladies please do not be afraid of marriage because of the possibility of divorce, take time out for your self to decide if marriage is right for you. Focus on someone or something that can empower you and uplift you in life, like the Lord. I stayed single for 15 months not dating or going out but going to church, doing the school thing and each night i prayed for the Lord to find me someone and he did. Oct. 9, 2009 i married the man sent to me by God and i am thankful. so trust God and take time out to see what you really want.

Posted at 2:01PM on October 19th 2009 by Shanekia

Its seems everyone has stopped trying completely. I got married 5 years ago and I not only made vows to my husband but to God as well. For better or worse. It hasnt been the easiest road but somehow, keeping God in the middle of it all has kept me going. When the road gets rough I seriously whole hearted give it up to him and let him fix it. My husband is great most of the time but sometimes its the little bad things that wind up over shadowing the good. suddenly we stop seeing whats more important. God NEVER gives us more than what we can handle, so what ever it is we are going through, he already has a way out, we just have to ask. My momma says even after 35years of marriage to my dad, it never gets easy. But you stay strong and walk together. I dont know what God has in store but I ask him everyday to show me the way and the light... everything else tends to fall in place.

Posted at 5:46PM on October 16th 2009 by Faith

I too have been through my share of disappointments - abusive, lazy, AND cheating men. I am 31 years old now and became a single mother at the age of 22. It was rough trying to do anything with a child - much less DATE! But, during that time I learned to enjoy my singleness. I stopped thinking that every new guy I met was a relationshp prospect and treated them like friends - aka, I didn't sleep with 'em. This is exactly how I met my husband. Bottom line - have faith in God, get rid of insecurities, love and take care of yourself (and your kids), learn how to make peace and not war, and don't take dating so seriously. The right guy often comes when you're not looking and realize that your soulmate may not be the grand image you've painted in your mind...real talk, God knows best. A great book to read is The Ring Formula by Dr. Alduan Tartt - excellent advice for the single ladies lookin' for Mr. Right.

Posted at 9:26AM on October 14th 2009 by Relationships Don't Have to Suck

Well ladies it can be done, I got a divorce when my kids was 10,8,6, I raised them myself their dad call when he wanted to but otherwise like i told the kids you may see him you nay not so that way they ddin't get their hopes up, Now my kids are 21,19,17, 2 are in college and the last one will graduate in May and she will go to college, I put dating on hold to get my kids set in their lifes and i didn't want nothing less only the best, I will continue my college this spring, And if that spmepne comes along so be it if not I will keep on living life to the fullest, So ladies no man is worth your kids if you have to choose , God and my kids ,family, friends waht more, Be patient.

Posted at 4:46PM on October 9th 2009 by ReeRee

Continue 3rd page. Marriag then Divorce Comp. We are slowly destroying the human race to a point where we are going to become extinct and the animals are going to be taking care of us. (Hmmm) You may smile about this but you need to learn what the word LOVE really mean and start implementing it into your lives. If by some chance you have children instill love into them as well we don’t need another statistic on our hands. People this is not a black and white issue this is a human race issue. Get it together before hate over powers you. P.S. Please quit using your religion and getting married because you want to have sex. Don’t get me wrong you little satanic person it’s the right way just again, for the wrong reason. LOVE!!!!

Posted at 3:06PM on October 2nd 2009 by Mary Rupert

Continue from previous: Marriage then Divorce=Comp. If one truly loves you and vice versa prenuptials will never have entered your minds. Be honest with yourself who want to enter into a real marriage and doom it from the beginning to fail. Do any of you know anything about LOVE? I’m not talking about the love for your mother, brother or sister. I’m talking about love as a couple. Are the people in this world hurting that bad that we can’t trust and love one another the way there supposed to be loved? What’s so hard about that? Watch the signs people; it’s not that hard, trust me. If you’re really watching, oh you will definitely see good and bad signs it’s called “learning the one you’re with.”

Posted at 3:05PM on October 2nd 2009 by Mary Rupert

Written By: Mary Rupert Marriage Then Divorce = Compensation (WOW!!! What A Profit) Marriage, it is a bond between two people and God, which is not to be entered into lightly, nor is it to be taken for granted and not to be used for your own selfish good. What profits a man to lose his soul and gain the whole world? (NOTHING) Neither party wins nor benefit from this; you’re entering into a marriage with the wrong intensions. What is the prenuptial all about? Who ever is asking the other party to sign this agreement is already sending the signal, I JUST FLAT OUT DON’T TRUST YOU!!! and this marriage is doomed before we’re even married. Then the person says I’m just protecting myself/assets wake up people RED ALERT he or she is telling you again, I just flat out don’t trust you. What words are you not understanding the I or the trust. Think about this, then process it then react again, I DON’T TRUST YOU!!!! Ding, ding, ding, ding, ding by George I think they got it. .

Posted at 2:59PM on October 2nd 2009 by Mary Rupert

We been together 10 years and married 3 years with a 4 month old daughter that looks like her daddy. I was blinded by my pregnancy because I didn't realize he was cheating. I had plenty of time and opportunity to look but never did. The week my little girl turned 6 weeks he told me he was leaving us. He told me that he didn't want me anymore. He moved out and got his own apartment. What he failed to mention is that he had been seeing her for about 5 months, they met at his job, she's riden in his car, she's spent the night at his apartment (I haven't been invited), they've been to dinner (I haven't been out with him out in 4 months). He left me with a baby less than 2 months old, unemployed and with a mortgage. My heart was broken and I wasn't ready to become a statistic. My daughter deserves to grow up with both parents. He promised never to break my heart and to love me till death is the only way we part. He stops by once a week for a few hours to see the baby.

Posted at 2:54AM on September 22nd 2009 by Wifey