Color of Love: Celebs in Interracial Relationships

Posted at 7:17PM on November 2nd 2008 by Torey, I think your confused sweetie. Since you've never dated an African Americian woman you have no vaild argument. Your bitterness has no just cause. It's seem to me, that your rely on racial sterotypes of black women as your jusitification to date outside your race. When I go to clubs, (which is rare) I see more white women with "thugs" then black women. Black women are educated, strong, sexy, and beautiful. You probably just can't handle a strong black woman. "No woman should have to break her neck to hold on to you" you speak as if your a woman savior, PLEASE, if they have to try that hard to keep you, u must be trying to run away....

Posted at 9:44AM on November 3rd 2008 by Misha

Posted at 7:17PM on November 2nd 2008 by Torey, I think your confused sweetie. Since you've never dated an African Americian woman you have no vaild argument. Yor bitterness has no just cause. It's seem to me that your rely on racial sterotypes of black women as your jusitifaction to date outside your race. When to club which is rare I see more white women with "thugs" then black women. Black women are educated, strong, sexy, and beautiful. You probably just can't handle a Strong Black woman. "No woman should have to break her neck to hold on to you" you speak as if your a woman savior, please if they have to try to hard to keep you, u must be trying to run away..

Posted at 9:31AM on November 3rd 2008 by Misha

Why are so people so angry about seeing black women happy? I know it's hard to believe, but Black women deserve happiness too. And why can't black men and women have a conversation without tearing each other down? I'm happy to see black men with other race women ...l'm also glad to see black women dating interracially. There are quality men of all colors, but I choose to date outside of my race, because I'm young, beautiful, healthy, educated, childless and not waiting around for some 'black prince' to come sweep me off my feet. In the end we're all just people....seriously.

Posted at 8:38PM on November 2nd 2008 by Meldody

One more comment>>> I see good sisters all the time with thugs or no good, unemployed, 3 kids by three different women brothers and they would never pay me the time of day... why? Because I'm not out in the clubs, I have a REAL job and don't consider "hustling" to be a career, I read books, watch CNN and wear my pants above my a**.. most black women tend to make bad decisions when it comes to dating black men, they always choose men beneath them and men who didn't even want anything out of life. Those same sisters, once they got used by those brothers, have a kid or two by them, and decide she wants better for her life, now want to be with me (I see it happen DAILY) and I look at them like they are retarded. I'm 31, only dated 2 black women in my life, none of which were American black women by the way, and both of those sisters chased after me. They went on one date with me and then broke their necks to hold on to me.

Posted at 7:17PM on November 2nd 2008 by Torey

@Ms. Cali... PTSD goes for both black men and black women. I can and have written entire articles and did lectures based on why so many black men are messed up. I have spent time mentoring, teaching and educating many black men who have already messed up and tried to get them on the right track. My thing is, I know many brothers I went to graduate school with who are looking for good sisters, yet they get passed up way too much by sisters looking for the flashy brother or the brother who seems ultra masculine when in reality they're just scared little boys. Our race as a whole is hugely messed up and at times both black men and women disgust me, largely due to PTSD. I have hope in us, but I know that if we don't fix ourselves no one else can and we will only take our confusion, depression and disease into other relationships with other races.

Posted at 6:56PM on November 2nd 2008 by Torey

I would like to say; Where are you meeting these men? Are you only interested in Football players, Rappers, Frat Boys? Also not having babies out of weblock if you aren't good enuff to marry surely you shouldn't want his child. Further more I too believe there is a lot of self-hate on the part of these women. What's the problem, you all wamt to look like Halle?

Posted at 6:11PM on November 2nd 2008 by Toia

Some of these comments reeks of self-hate. I have no problem with interracial couples. It's done of my business. I perferred Black men as a Black woman I am in my comfort zone. As many others do of various ethnic groups and would attest to, Many sista's are looking for a King, when themselves are no Queens. Water seeks it;s own level. I met my husband at a Black art festival through mutural friends from college. I didn't meet him at a Club or Church. The formention are what I call extreme when meeting someone, because each carry a cautionary tale that is too numerous to get into at this post. However, the negative images shown on T.V are just one aspect of our cutlural.

Posted at 6:00PM on November 2nd 2008 by Urban Habuki

i am glad when i see a black man with a white woman. i believe that saves another sista from alot of heartaches.

Posted at 5:57PM on November 2nd 2008 by brenda

@Lily. Maybe it's just demographics because here in Orlando that's what I see. Also, I've noticed as a "good black man" that most black women initially date, have kids and give their all to the worst of black men (the thugs, those who can't provide and unfaithful) while ignoring the good black men who may not be so "down" or "flashy". THEN, after three kids, bad credit from the no good brothers and a bunch of other baggage they finally want a good brother who is looking at them like "Hell no!" You women choose to date those no good brothers and then want to get mad at all brothers. I'm a mental health professional and I can diagnose most of you with something, but mainly PTSD, Post Traumatic Slave Disorder. Good luck in your interracial dating, but until you truly fix yourselves you will never be happy, no matter the color of your man.

Posted at 2:33AM on November 2nd 2008 by Torey

Torey thats funny because most of the black women I see with white men tend to be the natual ones

Posted at 2:25AM on November 2nd 2008 by lily