It's unfortunate that this article had to be followed by a healthy dose of Black Male bashing. I wonder if any of you ladies in here realize that you can gave "black male" children with your white mates. So "unfortunately" you will still have to deal with Black men in the form of your sons. This vile crescendo chorus of hatred towards Black men by Black women has even reached young Black women and teens. They are talking about "being tired of Black men" at 17,18, and 19 years old. All this is nonsense is doing is increasing the division between us...Congratulations!.

This has nothing to do with going backward. We are talking about elimination of ones race!!! We are becoming extinct here!!! what's going to happen when there's no more of us is this what society wants. It's a set up!!!! And we are falling right into this trap. Our men are killing each other and killing our women!! SAD!

It's almost amusing that this is still a "controversial" idea deserving of a trend story in a national magazine. I think it can probably be told in two sentences: African-American women, it' a big world. Live in all of it.

Love is where you find it. Its about time that black women stop saying, " I am waiting for a good black man." Honey they are marrrying for the most part white, hispanic and asian women. Sorry sisters, but here is the good news, we get asked out by men of different races all the time and we turn them down. Stop it!! Good men came in all shapes and colours, Black women of the world unite and start dating like we live near the U.N. building. We have let black men take us for granted for far too long. Alot of them have moved on, we have to take control of our lives and move on as well. Good hunting sisters and remember, take any future mate to your doctor and get a blood test before you are intimate with them. Regardless of their race.

I have dated men that were Caucasian and I have dated a Puerto Rican. And they were both very good to me. When I was in the millitary there was a lot of interracial dating. I was teased when I got out by a female I know because her perception was so distorted by living in a small town in South Carolina. I explained to her men are me good, bad and ugly. And it dosent matter what there race is.

Pretty sounds like some white guy trying to destroy the blk race by putting down the blk male. If that's not true and Pretty is a blk female and others feel the same way, that pretty much explains why our race is going backwards. Newsflash to women like Pretty, if YOU allow someone to disrespect you and treat you like trash...guess what, they will treat you like trash. This is not rocket scientist stuff. All you do is list everything brothers don't do, instead of trying to encourage brothers to do the right thing. I pray you are not a teacher and are not exposed to any children. You and others like you are ignorant. How bout you true doing something for the right reason for a change, like loving someone who loves you back, regardless of their background. Guess that is too much for you brain to handle

Love is Love no matter how you look at it or who you are sharing it with at present. The brotha's will treat you bad and so with the white men. I feel that men are men no matter what the color of their skin. Following your heart is a good thing, however, you must demand that respect. If you are not getting the respect that you deserve then it is time to find someone who will give you the respect and honor. So, you cannot blame it all on the brotha's.

I wish that Black men wouldn't play games, get their lives together and stop abusing Black women and children. I like many others can't afford to wait for a Decent Black man. Most of the Brothers that I met are "disrespectful" they dont want any commitments and feel entitled to their "fill of different women" and want you as a woman to wait for them. I dont think so! Besides, the AIDS/HIV rates are off the charts and we all know that comes from Brothers making their sexual rounds both married and single. Brothers love deceiving Sisters and not being honest! I dont date them anymore with No regets. Life is too short. Its not all Brothers but I must admit its a hugh percentage.

I love CoCoT message, Sisters date out and dont accept "less than" to have ha Black man Black men disrespect us way too much! I refuse to date black men anymore, all are not bad but those stats are too ihigh and Im not interested in being a Black man's statistic especially when they show Black women they dont care about them. Black men show me as a Black woman that I have "No value" and neither to Black children.

I am so happy that you showed black women with white men. Black men and white women are commonly seen a lot and overrated. I am glad that you showed a different aspect of interracial relationships. I am currently in one myself and it's good to see other black women happy with their white significant other. Love is something you can't judge, love has no color. I am happy that people are realizing this and are more accepting of interracial dating. I am happy and content with my life right now and I wouldn't change a thing for the world. I have nothing agianst my brothers, but I wanted to try something new and it ended up being the best thing that has ever happened to me.

I have to say what if you live in Ireland girls. I have an irish mum and a nigerian dad they married over 35 years ago. I am obviously a black woman and i have never ever dated a black man, and my partner is a white man and we have a totally gorgeous daughter, which goes to show love sees no colour it really doesn't. I think you American ladies can be a little backward, women with colour and men as well have had to deal with a whole lot in past years and present, but anyone who is brought up properly and seen the world will know we are all the same and love is love.

What an interesting subject that's fielding quite a response. I'm glad Essence decided to bring this up. From reading a majority of the comments it seems that a lot of women are going to be waiting for a mate for a long time. Ladies clear your conscious and erase what ever guilt is laid upon you, you can love freely who wants you. Don't miss out on love with someone who wants you just because you share a different background. Love is love, don't they teach this in Church? Or is it a certain kind of love that has most of you lonely, desperate and tolerating all kinds of crap? I don't know where all these good black men are that you all are waiting for but if you are past 35, he’s not coming for you. While many of you are waiting, life is passing you by. You have everything else but you are stalling your own happiness.

why are all the couples all black women with white men? There are alot of black male famous actors /singers etc who've married women of other races where are their pictures?

As an African-American woman, although it's nice seeing couples of color together, however, in my opinion, at 58 years old, love is where you find it. My family is so interracial, that it would be hypocritical for me to think otherwise. My ex-hubby was African American and we are still friends. However, if the next man in my life is warm and caring, I don't care what race he is. I say God bless them, for having the courage, to face up to the truth about love. From an older sister...

It's true that love, respect, kindness and appreciation are color blind. That's what we all want from our relationships. It's actually to the point that African-American women need to be more open to dating men of other races in order to experience those aforementioned attributes. Men of other races have often found us very beautiful, intelligent and full of life, so why not indulge ourselves in the beauty of being fully appreciated. It's quite unfortunate that far too many black men ruin their lives at a young age by committing crimes that follow them for the rest of their lives. This occurs while many black women are educating themselves and making sure that they are doing what's appropriate to market themselves in the various career arenas that are available not only nationally, but globally. From now on, no excuses! Excuses go down in the checkbook as zeros.