“Once you realize that living together is harmful to the relationship, come up with a plan to move out. A relationship can continue after cohabitation if you both want that. But remember that you might be able to improve things if you change whatever it is about the cohabitation situation that’s being harmful. Maybe you two are spending too much time together and it’s causing tension. Make a plan to spend more time out separately with your respective friends. Take up a new hobby, make an effort to nurture your own life and identity—then you can bring more to your relationship when you two are together,” Mauer explains.