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Abiola Abrams's Top 10 Dating Don'ts
Media diva Abiola Abrams is one of the stars of VH1’s latest dating show “Tough Love,” which helps six very single ladies overcome their pitfalls in love. The house’s resident, “Ms. Picky” Abrams, 32, represents for all the sisters with high expectations and long lists of what we want from a good man. The chocolate beauty shares her newly acquired dating insight exclusively with ESSENCE.com in these ten useful tips:
Compiled by: Demetria L. Lucas
1. Refrain From Judging Him
“I learned a lot about dating from the show. Now I’m less judgmental and way more open.”
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Don't lower your standards, but do revisit them often and put more into what the person is about than his bank account or how he looks. I know a sister who has an average looking husband, but he's VERY good to her, takes care of his business & because he wears glasses you don't see his eyes. One day she looked elated & dished how wonderful their private time was and that he only LOOKS tame. The next time I saw him, he took his glasses off just to clean them and I saw something I had never paid attention to before. He had the most beautiful eyes & when he looked at his wife I could see the love he has for her. It made me really believe this guy is tops. She is a very Blessed woman. A guy can look like a Clark Kent & be Superman on the inside, but if we don't get beyond the superficial AND take time to get to know a person instead of rushing judgement, we'll never know. I've had 20 years of the same with my husband and wish her & her husband a long happy marriage. They got it right!
Posted at 1:42PM on March 28th 2009 by Lynn
we women must stop making men feel they can rule our mind and body. we must be strong and say "enough is enough i deserve some respect"
Posted at 2:34PM on March 27th 2009 by dela