10 Things You Shouldn't Do When Dating

One thing that I find women do when in relationships that is a mistake is to forsake their girlfriends. All of their free time revolves around the guy. They seem to disappear from the face of the earth until there is a problem with the guy. Then they resurface and you can't get rid of them. They don't value their female friendships.

Posted at 9:17AM on July 6th 2009 by Fran

This was dead on im going thru now, but I know Christ should/will be my focus as a single woman working on meand my relationship with God-the lover of my soul. Not putting "brothas on a pedestal."

Posted at 12:25AM on March 31st 2009 by angelica

Stay away from move in relationships, it makes the man too comfortable and can prolong the marriage, because he will feel like he is already married without the commitment.

Posted at 11:28AM on March 30th 2009 by Lovey Davis

Elizabeth: A lot of men go for white women because they say black women are too hard to dea with, but the reality is that a lot of white women (not all), just don't place demands for fear of him leaving her. That's not a prize. I feel sorry for ANY woman who does that & HE has a problem. I wouldn't want a man who wants a woman with no or low standards, that makes him the fool, so good riddance! As for your son, he'll be fine, keep God first & he will help you raise to him into a REAL man. People say opposites attract, but we attract what we put out. If a man wanted a woman with low self esteem & approached me I'd have to question what about me made him think I had low self esteem, let's check ourselves!

Posted at 1:46PM on March 28th 2009 by Toni

Don't lower your standards, but do revisit them often and put more into what the person is about than his bank account or how he looks. I know a sister who has an average looking husband, but he's VERY good to her, takes care of his business & because he wears glasses you don't see his eyes. One day she looked elated & dished how wonderful their private time was and that he only LOOKS tame. The next time I saw him, he took his glasses off just to clean them and I saw something I had never paid attention to before. He had the most beautiful eyes & when he looked at his wife I could see the love he has for her. It made me really believe this guy is tops. She is a very Blessed woman. A guy can look like a Clark Kent & be Superman on the inside, but if we don't get beyond the superficial AND take time to get to know a person instead of rushing judgement, we'll never know. I've had 20 years of the same with my husband and wish her & her husband a long happy marriage. They got it right!

Posted at 1:42PM on March 28th 2009 by Lynn

we women must stop making men feel they can rule our mind and body. we must be strong and say "enough is enough i deserve some respect"

Posted at 2:34PM on March 27th 2009 by dela

Get your mind right. Keep the faith. Know who you are.Let your heart be filled with honesty, loyalty, and kindness. Only then will there be an aura about you that will attract compatible men who cannot resist you, to your glowing persona.

Posted at 9:51AM on March 27th 2009 by laqua

this article alone makes us as women look desparate 10 things you shouldn't do when dating and its all related to women making mistakes. do we see what were doing or do we even care. its really weak as women to put ourselves out there like that. Both people have to fill like the prize especially women! but were not if we keep giving ourselves so easily. than they don't respect that and guess what shouldn't!

Posted at 10:50PM on March 26th 2009 by girl

Anita God Bless you and keep telling the truth.

Posted at 10:06PM on March 26th 2009 by Peach

For thy Maker is thine husband; the Lord of hosts is His name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall He be called. Isaiah 54:5 When you become the best person you can be you won't have to chase after men they will chase after you!

Posted at 8:52PM on March 26th 2009 by flo (the wise one)