Has he learned how not to cheat? ‘Put it on Front Street,’ I always say. So many people never get to the real questions. Why? This is your emotional and mental health we’re talking about. You should put that up front and the way you do that is by communicating your needs and getting your man or potential mate to do the same. As infidelity is the number one cause of divorce in relationship, learning if your man has the ability to be faithful should be your first concern. So go ahead and ask them, “Have you ever learned how not to cheat?” If this is the right person for you, they won’t be afraid to answer.